My passion and strongest asset is my genuine desire to help others.

My goal is to not only educate and benefit myself, but to learn with intention to empower those that are struggling to take up their power in healing with a stronger sense of self-love.

In my healing journey, I’ve come to realize that I’ve endured and overcome many challenging abusive situations within one lifetime.

A series of extreme circumstances and chronic exposure to abuse, often prevents people from reaching a position to turn their reactive experience into proactive, preventive care for themselves and others.

Being 1 of 6 children split through the Oklahoma DHS foster system based on very serious accounts of abuse – despite the blessing of being adopted early – had a significant impact on my brain’s development that carried on to affect every dynamic of my life going forward.

It has taken time and self-discovery over and over to realize this has had both negative AND positive impacts.

Our society and human nature makes it easier to understand things as they are taught – as if diagnosis of destined concrete consequence with minimal hope and much despair.

The lasting effects of early childhood trauma is very not prioritized within our education systems, or by medical providers serving us. That overlaying mindset of being “stuck” without savior is a dangerous, because the biggest problem is we are not encouraged or educated well in these spaces on how to save ourselves from ourselves in a context we can rationalize.

The rare ACE scoring in schools and during intakes with primary care physicians are only early signs of our culture improving to consider trauma in direct connection with ongoing difficult situations and medical diagnoses being faced by many children and adults.

There is hope in healing that goes further than we realize because we’re taught to track and treat symptoms versus to investigate, value or repair the source. Rarely do we start with rewriting the narrative of our story within and of ourselves.

Very quickly and early on in childhood, I grew tired of overhearing adults discuss the heinous acts of abuse and neglect, the symptoms defining my abilities based on evidence of others. I decided I won’t let my hardships define or hold me back – a skill I now understand as resilience and grit.

Either way, I grew up without insight into the natural biological aftermath of the things that had happened to me, and this was not information taught to my caregivers. If anything, abusive practices were promoted such as, “holding therapy.” Something I just recently defined when reading of this practice within one of my suggested books.

The difference in my approach as an adult – is healing while honoring those parts of myself with compassion and curiosity, instead of a desire to separate myself from it.

I know my purpose is giving back to people who are struggling to live the life I’ve lived in many different versions. As a former victim/recipient of being served by most every major social system in place to protect and help provide better for society – I know too intimately the myriad of struggles and complex complications within these efforts, even with honest intentions.

Moving upward on Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, you achieve more cognitive capacity for choice – regardless of the life circumstances you’ve been dealt.

One of my many goals is to help people recognize that survival, even while feeling trapped within those lower levels of the hierarchy, are still versions of success. If you keep seeking the good rather than dwelling on the hurt, you allow more access for good to you.

I wish to provide positive support to those working to move through these stages towards self-actualization by planting seeds of opportunity to analyze these situations differently and directly encourage personal growth.

I may not yet feel equipped yet to advocate in ways I previously put on a pedestal as “most useful” or proven worthy. However, aside from some limited education (as I’m in progress with my Bachelors in Sociology – Human Services), the untrainable experience I’ve gained over my lifetime has provided me insight being wasted on many that aren’t ready to take up the work to progress on their journey.

So, if you’re hurting – hang around and give yourself the safe space to exist and examine new ways of thinking.

Similar to the lesson of parenthood, I’ve realized you’re never ready for life and can’t plan it into perfection. In other words, stop waiting till you reach a certain milestone or achieve a certain goal to try something new and healthy.

All I can do is show up and start trying as I am, and over time, even if only through ripple effects of sharing content and referring or offering services to provide necessary support – I know this will grow bigger than me and have monumental positive and meaningful impact to some of the most vulnerable populations.

As you can tell, I’m not cut out for niceties of pretending to always have it together.

It has been a struggle to learn to admit that things are hard.

To tell my truths while maintaining a sense of pride rather than shame.

To learn how to perform self-care and dedicate as much time to that, as I used to spend trying to convincing others of my worth.

In many ways, this is just one avenue of me opening up and sharing my journey of healing and transformation in hopes it helps someone else sort through the chaos in their heart and come out capable of propelling others upward on the way.